The one section of the Strib that I look at (it has the puzzles) had a large story on the front page today that caught my eye.  It was about an essay that has apparently "swept the internet".

It seems the subject of this essay was so breathtakingly,  earthquakingly, soulshakingly  groundbraking that women from sea to shining sea had to read it to believe it!

The premise?  

Be nice to your husband and you'll have a happy marriage.

It goes into more detail, of course.  Our media loves to take bumpersticker philosophy and expand it.  This essay talks about training your husband to do what you want using the same techniques that animal trainers use.  Rave, gush and shower affection on the subject when they behave in an approved manner and ignore all else.

Who'da thunk?

Is this what Feminism has finally brought us to?  Women who don't even know enough to be nice to the man they've chosen to spend their lives with and possibly be the father of their children?  Women who are so self centered they don't even know how to encourage good behavior and discourage bad behavior without becoming nagging shrews?  And people are surprised at the divorce rate? 

How can this be causing a frenzy?  It's not new info.  Dr. Laura put out a book not three years ago entitled "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands."  I didn't read it but my sister in law did and she said "It's basically just "be nice to him".  Nothing we don't know." 

But apparently a lot of women don't know. 

How could this have happened?  We are now in the fourth decade of the Women's liberation movement.  Feminism seems to have morphed from "Treat Us Like People" to "Men Suck" to "Why Don't Men Like Us?"  Now women actually need How To books to remind them that it's hard to love someone who treats you like dirt.  Women's lib has come full circle. 

I think this is a good thing.  At last, we've come to the generation of women who are liberated yet want to have happy marriages.  Perhaps feminism has finally reached a point where women realize they don't need to put men down to build themselves up.  It's about time.

Our grandmothers would be puzzled indeed.  They knew all about this stuff.  In fact, I've come to the conclusion that a great share of girls are born knowing this stuff.  Our culture has bred it out of them in the last few decades.  I know way too many four year old girls who can flirt and charm a guy to do anything but will (or has) been discouraged to develope this talent through magazine articles, school lectures and ubiquitous tv shows and movies where the girl only gets what she wants by being tough and manly. 

There has always been an easier way and our Grandmothers knew it.

It's called Feminine Wiles.

And it's a Good Thing.

 

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